Marriage Lessons from the Geese (Part 1)



My wife came into the bedroom and was about pulling off her shoes when she said, ‘Have you heard of the lessons from the geese?’

She had just returned from the Project Management course she started recently.

‘No!’ I replied. ‘What is it about?’

‘Our lecturer taught us the lessons today, but I am famished. Let me get something to eat before I start’, she responded. She then went ahead to dish the rice on the dining table on her plate. After taking a couple of spoons, she started, ‘Do you know that when the geese are flying, as each goose flaps its wings it creates an “uplift” for the birds that follows. By flying in a V formation, the whole flock adds 71% greater flying range than if each bird flew alone. When the lead goose grows tired, it drops back and another goose takes its place at the front of the V.’

‘Really! I never knew that. That means they share a common sense of mutual help’, I said astonished.

If only couple will learn from the geese that if they can share a common direction and sense of a community, then they can get where they are going quicker and easier because they are travelling on the thrust of one another.

‘And do you also know that when a goose falls out of formation, it suddenly feels the drag and resistance of flying alone. It quickly moves back into formation to take advantage of the lifting power of the bird in front of it.’ She continued.

That reminded me of the Yoruba adage that says that it is the absence of the communal living of snakes that brings about their woes.

When we are trying to hook up and form relationships, if we have as much sense as a goose we would stay in formation with those headed where we want to go. We would be willing to help each other attain our dreams and visions. Getting to our destination might be difficult when we walk alone or when we walk with those who don’t have the same destination as ours in mind

‘What happens to the lead goose when it gets exhausted since I know they may have to travel for a long distance’, I asked.

After sipping down a glass of water, she said, ‘it simply rotates back into the formation and another goose flies to the point position.’

It pays to take turns doing the hard tasks and sharing leadership. As with geese, people are interdependent on each other’s skills, capabilities and unique arrangements of gifts, talents or resources.

(to be continued)


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